You can't really tell...

You can't really tell why does someone affect your life the most. You have plenty of questions and you wonder why.

You're making your life harder than it's supposed to be. You keep on pushing yourself to be loved by that person and you keep on pretending that there is indeed a glimpse of hope for you to be together.

But sometimes you wake up crying...you wake up feeling alone and unwanted...You tell yourself "I am okay" but the truth is, you're not.

You keep on clinging with the past, though you know that deep inside, everything's over (has it started?-this should be the very first question). We have to accept the fact that while some good things never last, SOME DO NOT EVEN START.

We do love to prolong the agony, we love to keep the hurt alive, because we believe that if we still feel hurt, we still feel LOVE for that special person. Why do we always cry over spilled milk? Because of the fact that we have lost it and we still very much want to drink it.

But life is not like that. There are things which can be brought back and there are things that are impossible to relive. All we have to do, perhaps, is to stop having those false hopes, stop clinging with the past and lastly, stop pretending that love is still alive where in fact it's no longer there, it's no longer part of your life.

When you keep on dwelling with the past, you may not be able to move forward. You may not be able to know that hey, there's life after the pain, after the hurt, after that dreadful incident of your life. It's just a matter of accepting the fact that what you felt was just a thing of the past, something that must be forgotten. Forget the hurt, but never forget the great feeling of being in love, of being taken care of. These are your weapons while on your search for a new love, a new relationship. Never forget that loving feeling, that will help you be mature enough to handle the next relationship...

And if love knocks at your door once again, don't be afraid to give it a try. Give yourself a chance to be happy once again, to feel that great feeling once again. You never know, that love could just be the same love that you have been waiting for a lifetime. That same person could be the "next person" after all. In that case, you should be careful, extra careful in deciding. It's harder, because you have lot of things to consider. You were hurt the first time, you can be hurt again this time. But, come to think of it, you may also have the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and rebuild the relationship, a better one this time.

If it's the a brand new love, then it's better. It's a fresh start, a new horizon to pursue and a great deal of opportunity to be happy and hurt-free.

Don't forget...never waste any opportunity to show how much you care. You never know, it might be too late after all. Sometimes you wait for the other person to do it first just to know that, that person might be waiting for you all this time. Pride doesn't bear any fruit, humility and truthfulness do.

In God's time, we will all fall in love, for the right reasons, to the right person. When that time comes, it will be worth the long wait, the tears and the pain, then we will forget we ever cried!